This year, Ireland's premier league will be more interesting than the previous. The Irish Football Association has ruled that the Premier League is shortened from the current 12 clubs next season that has a total of 10 clubs. This decision will not affect much on the championship ambitions of Dundalk, Cork City, or European ambitions St.Patricks, Derry City, Sligo Rovers and Shamrock Rovers. It will be a big unscrupulous battle to stay in the league.
I mean the old / new Premier League club Drogheda, and then to Bray, Athlone. Apparently in the middle of the table at the end of the season will be pleased Galway, Limerick & Bohemians .... So, for me it is unquestionable that the Dundalk and Cork City again to lead a fierce battle and will be uncertain who will be the champion. Somehow traditionally Dundalk is already considered a champion, but we should not exclude from Cork City which this year I expect a lot more than the previous season.
Last time I started writing about accepting losses as part of the game. It is in my opinion step number one when having a bad run, tough times.
Today I will continue with what I personally found to be best working out for me in such times of distress. Step number two.
As soon as the last event I placed a bet on ends, doesn't matter winning or losing I just switch of my mind and do not think about betting anymore. I know it is not that easy to completely ignore what happened 10 minutes ago but with time and training it gets easier and easier.
How do I do it? How not to think about the losses as those probably affect us in many ways. Probably we wanted to buy something or go somewhere and now we won't. Well that's the risk of this occupation. Never bet anything you are not ready to lose.
So, the dialogue in my head is what makes the difference. I would never blame myself or be too hard on myself as this does no help and is of no use. Of course if I did something stupid, as we all make impulsive mistakes from time to time, I always analyze and aknowledge it in order to prevent the same mistake from happening again in the future. This way, in time, we reduce the mistakes we make, we learn, we perform better.
So stopping the negative thoughts entering our head is, in my opinion, step number two for making our lives easier through tough times.
But the question here is, how to stop them, after an event has ended we are still excited, our mind is addicted to this adrenaline rush and seeks the emotion. It does not want to think about something else as this is interesting, it is what makes us feel alive at times.
What I do is, I have those so called anchors. Those are people, places or situations I got in my head that I am greatful about. I am happy those are in my life and I have this very clear picture why and what those gave me. When I think about those people what they did or what in general I have in my life I just feel happy.
I cannot stress enough how important it is to be able to be happy just when we access certain memory or a pictuire in your head. Even if things around us are not working well there is always something we can find that can touch us in a way that puts the smile on our face. And it is not only a memory. It can be all other things in life in our present situation. Let it be our loving partner, our good health, our children even our good friendships. There is always something we can appreciate.
So that's the anwer for me, how I stop the negative thinking, just focusing on the positive in my life. It is not easy to master, controlling the of train of thoughts, but with times and focus it is achieved and it is what really improved my quality of life. Cause at the end it is what's in our head that defines all.
Next time I will continue to build on this subject as there are a few more things I would like to share that helped me and hopefully will help you as we all need it from time to time even if we do not admit it.
That's all folks,